Fear
FEAR... When you control another by intimidation, violence , not being your true authentic self being controlled by another. I have a friend who had experienced violence in the home. I offered my assistance as I have training and life experience
in Domestic violence. She expressed her fear about when entering the courtroom and facing him for the first time. I told her that he uses power, control, and fear, to control the outcome of his possible conviction of violence. A part of him is feeling inadequate, so he creates fear to be more complete. I told her not to put her fear into it .She was a strong and powerful woman,that did not deserve to be hit. I had previous experience of violence and knew of this .Having gone through the pain of a relationship that was not healthy . I would question what did I do to deserve this?.Was I a good wife?. My child upbringing of how a healthy relationship was not of your beaver and June cleaver happy life. I was exposed to belittling, violence, screaming, sexual abuse, you name It I lived It.
When people use violence to control another they are not living a conscious life. They have learned unhealthy patterns ,and are now trying to have adult relationships. When you do not heal the patterns that keep you stuck , you repeat the lesson until it is learned. Fear is a major component in violent relationships that need to be healed . Looking within to that part of the wounded soul, a healing can began . Facing the fear is a place to start . What inner dialog do you tell yourself ?.
List of negative beliefs
1. No one will love me
2. I'm not worthy of love
3. I am Stupid
4.I deserve this
5.Life happens to me
6.I'm afraid he'll hit me
7.I don't have enough money
8.I should not speak my opinion
Are these true?, You need to ask yourself. Usually these beliefs were imprinted by negative beliefs about yourself that were not true by other people in your lives,which then form a pattern .Examine who you attract in your life . what am I creating within this relationship ?, As like attracts like, What am I learning from this relationship so I can let go of any negative self beliefs about myself ?. Standing up to fear is very empowering. Know that there are alot of wounded people, but as we heal ourselves we heal the world.
I have used Arc Angel Micheal for my strength. He is a great Angel to work with in releasing fear. I invoke him always as he is my rock He is always there when I call on him . He takes away my fear and cuts the cords and attachments to patterns that need to be released. Always fill yourself with healing positive actions to create a more healthy balanced life. You will see a shift when you take steps in changing your old way of thinking .
Donna
in Domestic violence. She expressed her fear about when entering the courtroom and facing him for the first time. I told her that he uses power, control, and fear, to control the outcome of his possible conviction of violence. A part of him is feeling inadequate, so he creates fear to be more complete. I told her not to put her fear into it .She was a strong and powerful woman,that did not deserve to be hit. I had previous experience of violence and knew of this .Having gone through the pain of a relationship that was not healthy . I would question what did I do to deserve this?.Was I a good wife?. My child upbringing of how a healthy relationship was not of your beaver and June cleaver happy life. I was exposed to belittling, violence, screaming, sexual abuse, you name It I lived It.
When people use violence to control another they are not living a conscious life. They have learned unhealthy patterns ,and are now trying to have adult relationships. When you do not heal the patterns that keep you stuck , you repeat the lesson until it is learned. Fear is a major component in violent relationships that need to be healed . Looking within to that part of the wounded soul, a healing can began . Facing the fear is a place to start . What inner dialog do you tell yourself ?.
List of negative beliefs
1. No one will love me
2. I'm not worthy of love
3. I am Stupid
4.I deserve this
5.Life happens to me
6.I'm afraid he'll hit me
7.I don't have enough money
8.I should not speak my opinion
Are these true?, You need to ask yourself. Usually these beliefs were imprinted by negative beliefs about yourself that were not true by other people in your lives,which then form a pattern .Examine who you attract in your life . what am I creating within this relationship ?, As like attracts like, What am I learning from this relationship so I can let go of any negative self beliefs about myself ?. Standing up to fear is very empowering. Know that there are alot of wounded people, but as we heal ourselves we heal the world.
I have used Arc Angel Micheal for my strength. He is a great Angel to work with in releasing fear. I invoke him always as he is my rock He is always there when I call on him . He takes away my fear and cuts the cords and attachments to patterns that need to be released. Always fill yourself with healing positive actions to create a more healthy balanced life. You will see a shift when you take steps in changing your old way of thinking .
Donna
Comment
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Comment by Diana Dorell on October 15, 2009 at 6:52pm -
So beautiful Donna! I'm excited to read the next one. Love you,
Diana Dorell
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Comment by Denise Iwaniw on October 14, 2009 at 3:46pm -
Thank for sharing this with us, Donna. What a beautiful, bright Light* you are!
In gratitude,
Denise
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